The TueDo List: Helter Shelter + Soft Bras + Jenny Block

THIS WEEK

Pooh saying what we’re all thinking. (Source: The Internet gods)

While we all shelter in place and diligently practice physical distancing, there is no shortage of online activity to keep us all feeling less alone. Probably the most fun so far, these regular dance parties on Instagram Live hosted by DJ D-Nice, drawing over 100,000 viewers, including celebs like Michelle Obama, Oprah, Lenny Kravitz, Joe Biden and so many others. Rosie O’Donnell hosted a live fundraiser for The Actors Fund with just about every Broadway performer imaginable. Sir Patrick Stewart reads a sonnet a day, and we swoon. And here’s an excellent round-up of 11 cultural things you can do without leaving your home. Want to help provide more surgical masks to health care organizations? Donate here or here. Working from home can seem like the ideal option, until it’s the only option. Order candy and help save a Lower East Side institution. It helps to have a dog to walk right now. 🐶


OBSESSED: Soft Bras. Because During Covid, Those Underwires Gotta Go

The bralette trend has been running strong for a few years now. As a 40G woman, I have long been buying beautiful, well-made pieces of armor from France and England that can correctly (and pertly) corral my frontal female fleshballs but I spent months and months searching for high-end bralettes that went past a DD-cup, to no avail.  BUT I’m a shopping ninja to the core, and will not be denied, so I went on a hunt for good, soft bras — not sports bras, which are armor, too at this size — to wear at home and for gardening. And obviously, now that we all work at home, due to COVID-19, soft bras to wear all the time are of urgent importance. 

These four models are tried, and tested, and laundered, and loved and worn for at least a couple years, except for the last model which is a new discovery but rapidly becoming my favorite. For my sisters whose cups also runneth over, and who crave a soft but firm embrace, this is for you (NOTE: prices not included because they vary a lot on Amazon; look around for best colors and prices in your size! Range from $12.99 to $24):

  1. Fruit of the Loom Cotton Pullover Women’s Sports Bra

Calling this a sports bra is like calling a toothpick a 2x4, but I set that aside for the critically key detail of dainty spaghetti straps that actually hold me up. Now, I can’t run for my life in this, or even, really for the train, but I wear this bra the most because it makes me feel cute and gives good cleavage. And yes, is crazy soft. I actually reach up sometimes to check I’m even wearing it before heading to the grocery store.

  1. Glamorise Women's Complete Comfort Wirefree Cotton T-Back Bra

This sweet hook-and-eye front closure bra with lace detail is as close to a bralette for big titties as I have found. It’s pretty good support, and the racer-back is a real plus for when you’re being active or want to wear a tank top.

  1. Just My Size Women’s Pure Comfort Bra

This is the workhorse soft bra: the fullest coverage, almost like a cropped camisole, with wide straps and broad back coverage. This is the one I pull on to garden, walk around the neighborhood, do household chores, and…do nothing. Doesn’t do much for your shape, but keeps everything in place. 

  1. Hanes Women’s Ultimate Smooth Inside and Out Wire Free 

This is a super-recent discovery and I. Am. Obsessed. It looks like a bra, it closes like a bra, it has triangle-y shape and adjustable straps. It even carries and lifts my breasts like a real bra (tho quite gently). But that’s where the resemblance ends. This fabric is soft, stretchy, peached wonderfulness: Lycra after going to a spa for serious skin-softening treatments. I am wearing this style the most (I got it in both black and nude). And seriously? It’s sexy! I feel like a total babe in it. Which is saying something since I’m usually a few days unshowered and in pajama pants and a dog-hair-covered t-shirt when I’m wearing it. 

— Stacy Morrison


TUENIGHT 10: Jenny Block

(Photo: Terri Glanger, Glanger Photography)

Age: 49 (50 in July!)   

Quick bio: Jenny is a Houston based author and writer whose fourth book, Be That Unicorn: Find your Magic. Live your Truth. Share your Shine, from Mango Publishing was released on February 4 this year. It is being heralded as the modern antidote to “mean girl” culture that will inspire you to kick ass and take names while being kind to others and true to you. 

Beyond the Bio:  “If you had told me when I was a kid that as a ‘grown-up’ I would be living on a lake with the woman of my dreams, writing and traveling and taking on new adventures every day, I never would have believed you. Fifty used to seem so old. Now it seems, well, perfect. My study is full of art and unicorns. My heart is full of love for my wife and my daughter and the written word. And my spirit is alive with the challenge of helping others to feel like they can live their authentic unicorn life too. That is a life that isn’t perfect, but that’s perfect for you.

Right this minute of course, life seems quite surreal. I am grateful to have a wife who is doing all of the right things to prepare us and keep us safe. I am doing my best to make the most of this scary time and reminding myself that this, too, will pass. In the meantime, I believe creating and clinging to art is the only thing that will keep us sane.”

What makes you a grown-ass lady? “That I take responsibility for me. If I make a mistake, I own up to it. If I want something done, I do it. If I want something, I go after it. If I want to meet someone, I introduce myself. The older I get the more clear it becomes how short our time is here. As my dad always says, ‘You only get one ticket to this theme park called life.’ I intend to ride all the rides. I also intend to do my best to help others keep their heads above water right now. This is an incredibly difficult time which is affecting so many different people in so many different ways. I hope to be a voice of calm and comfort and reason to those who need me.”

1. On the nightstand: New York magazine, which I LOVE; a leather jewelry tray filled with odds and ends, and a candle that’s vanilla or cupcake or something in the realm of all things sweet.

2. Can't stop/won't stop: Writing. I crave it.

3. Jam of the minute: “Empire State of Mind.” Been my jam for years.

4. Thing I miss: My daughter being by my side all the time, especially right now while she’s quarantined with her dad four hours away from me.

5. ’80s crush: Phoebe Cates

6. Current crush: My wife

7. Latest fave find: CBD gummies to help me sleep, which are more important now than ever.

8. Last thing you lost: My glasses. Or my phone. Or both. I am always losing and finding them both. All day long.

9. Best thing that happened recently: My fourth book, “Be That Unicorn,” was published. And this one is like my heart and my joy and my everything all in 160 pages. Best part is people are saying it’s changing them for good and really helping them right now as we face so much unknown.

10. Looking forward to: This current debacle being behind us, so that I can go back to traveling the world with my wife and watching my daughter take on the world.


STORY: Corona Parenting — Do My Children Need to See Me Cry?

By Ericka Kreutz

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