The TueDo List: Sexcellent Estrogen + Pride Merch + Hacks Returns
And how to move the really heavy things when you live alone
📖 READ: Jane Fonda: Glamour cover girl in 1959 and 2022. America needs feminist magazines more than ever. Joan Jett will not tolerate insults from Ted Nugent. The feminist case for breast reduction. I argued Roe v. Wade; it would be a tragedy to overturn it. How the summer of 1982 changed movies forever. This year’s Rock and Roll Hall of Fame inductees: Women and ‘80s pop win big. A great interview with Parker Posey.
👀 LOOK: A photographic tribute to the halcyon days of disco. Profiles of 100 LGBTQ elders. OMG the lineup for this ‘80s music festival in Pasadena this weekend (if you go, please report back!). Phoodle is Wordle for foodies (and Martha Stewart loves it).
Sunday: Based on the book by Sally Rooney, Conversations with Friends. (Hulu)
OBSESSED: Vaginal Estrogen
I don’t usually get excited by products. Never brooded for a Birkin bag. Never pined for a pair of Manolos. If I’m going to spend my hard-earned cash on anything, give me an excellent experience—a hike in the woods, a trip to Italy—over a thing any day.
But now that I’ve discovered vaginal estrogen, which combines product with experience in such a perfect way, I can’t stop talking about it or recommending it to others.
That it costs anything over $5 a month is absurd, but that’s another story. If you know me or my writing, you know I believe healthcare is a human right, not a privilege, and that sexual health is women’s health.
Briefly, here’s the deal: as we age, our vaginal tissue thins. Picture the difference, my OB/GYN said, between a Kleenex and a thick steak. Vaginal estrogen (Estring, Vagifem, Yuvafem), unlike systemic estrogens used to treat the symptoms of menopause (e.g., Divigel, which I also take), is non-systemic, meaning it stays in the vagina. This means it’s safe for everyone, including those who’ve had estrogen receptor positive breast cancer.
I started taking vaginal estrogen to treat chronic UTIs, and then about three months in, along with no more UTIs, I also noticed the massive difference in sexual function. Meaning, no more lube required! No more chafing! This stuff provides quite a sexcellent experience.
EVENT: Ask Omisade Burney-Scott Anything
TueNight Social Members can join us on Tuesday, May 24th for our next Ask-Me-Anything (AMA) event with Omisade Burney-Scott!
Omisade is the creator of The Black Girl’s Guide to Surviving Menopause, a multimedia project seeking to curate and share the stories and realities of Black women and femmes over 50.
She’s a Black southern 7th generation native North Carolinian feminist, mother and healer with decades of experience in nonprofit leadership, philanthropy, and social justice. Grounded in an analysis of systems of oppression, she has trained extensively in identity politics, intersectionality, and liberatory organizing practices. She is a founding tribe member of SpiritHouse and previously served as a board member of The Beautiful Project, Village of Wisdom, and Working Films.
Also, her glasses are 🔥. We can’t wait to ask her where she buys her frames.
STORY: Can Someone Help Me Lift The Heavy Things?
I used to joke that my tombstone would say, “She died moving furniture by herself.” Not anymore.
Sometimes, when I am — say — crouched on the landing of my stairwell, with a solid teak, mid-century, nine-drawer dresser resting on my back, strategizing just exactly how I will negotiate my way around a 90-degree angle and down an additional 11 stairs without breaking (a) the dresser, (b) the stairs, or (c) my neck, it occurs to me that perhaps I should have asked for help…
Count your blessings, TueNighters!