THIS WEEK
Thank you, internet, for this 30-minute reel of 2020 news bloopers. Laughter really is the best medicine. Also amazing: TueNighter Deesha Philyaw in conversation with Samantha Irby. Tina Turner’s memoir, Happiness Becomes You, comes out today, and LitHub’s 65 favorite books of 2020 may help you finish your holiday shopping. Only two more days until Meryl, Dianne, and Deborah Eisenberg bless us with Let Them All Talk. 11 holiday films starring people of color. How dating during a pandemic is like being in a Jane Austen novel. The pandemic has disrupted our personal relationships; our pets have been a lifeline. I hate this Peloton that I love, or I love this Peloton. A great interview with Cyndi Lauper. Shh: We’re decorating with pornaments and mermen. Movers and Shakas wants you to work remotely. From Hawaii. Yes, please. Deadnaming: What it is and how to avoid it. Glynnis MacNicol on 50 years of the feminist press. Calling all word nerds: Go nuts with online fridge poetry. RIP David “Squiggy” Lander. A Wreatha Franklin and Fauci on a Couchi.
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STORY: The Grinch Had It Right — Presents Ruin the Holidays
By Diane di Costanzo
The December holidays, birthdays, and Valentine’s Day are all preceded by a mad scramble to find “something special,” or in my family, increasingly irate texts: “What do you want?” “You haven’t told me what you want!”
What I want is to not exchange gifts.
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OBSESSED: The Charlie Scarf
This is not just a scarf, y’all. It’s a scarf with a built-in mask. If, like me, you’re a harried, working-from-home mom who forgets her mask multiple times a week when racing around doing a million things at once, you might love the Charlie scarf too. The creator has been my friend, literally, since we were infants (She is a brilliant and stylish Nebraska girl who now helps run her husband's family's Swiss fashion line), but I am legit OBSESSED with my Charlies. They're gorgeous scarves with secret filtered masks built in, plus replaceable filters, adjustable ear loops, and flexible nose pieces. Wear them as chic accessories; pull up the mask as needed.
I get compliments literally every time I wear this scarf-mask, so I’m going to make it rain Charlies for my friends’ holiday gifts—we can all use something useful and fun this year. (Oh, and the scarves are unisex, although I have yet to convince my beardy husband to give one a whirl.)
— Sara Gilliam
TueNight 10: Teresa Misagal
(Sukumo aka indigo dyeing, Tokushima/Kyoto)
Age: “53. Holy bejeezus.”
Basic bio: Teresa is a shibori artist who uses indigo as her medium. She is a maker, creator, collector, and Japan traveler who draws on her fashion and photography background to combine traditional Japanese techniques with her vision as a non-Japanese to create functional textiles. She’s always on the quest for the tastiest soba.
Beyond the bio: “Once I left my comfy job of 22 years and took off to Japan, I never looked back. Trusting my heart and taking a leap of faith with the support of my mother and dear friends, I am filled with gratitude. I’ve learned that the more I let go and live by trusting and following my heart, the more connected I feel to the universe and everyone in it. I’m able to differentiate when I try to control things and focus (ie. in my work and slow down) and when to move through the world freely. Our lives are awesome and I’m happy living it (cue my grown ass lady tears now…pass the Kleenex).”
What makes you a grown-ass lady? “Being comfortable in my own skin and doing things that make my heart sing to live my truth. Not doing things to please others or fill their expectations to define me or make me likable.”
1. On the nightstand: I don’t have a nightstand but on the floor next to the bed: Langston Hughes’ The Ways of White Folks, Haruki Murakami’s Kafka on the Shore, Susan Weed’s Menopausal Years: The Wise Woman Way, and the November 15th issue of the NYT’s T Magazine.
2. Can't stop/won't stop: Eating and making stuff.
3. Jam of the minute: “Three Simple Words” by Fat Night.
4. Thing I miss: Since I can’t travel to Japan because of Covid: Japanese food, clothing, antique markets, behaviors, and sensibility.
5. ’80s crush: I can’t even remember what i did on which day last week or even what today is, but because I saw an Instagram post this morning… this was a definite YES: Jim Morrison. OK so he’s not ‘80s BUT I listened to him in the ‘80s and wished he’d existed in my time. I mean… that jawline alone, then the hair and the styling. #inspiration #hot. Yowza.
6. Current crush: Believe it or not, a Bumble match (who currently lives in Maine).
7. Latest fave find: I find stuff all the time. But if I think i can make it, I’ll try to rather than buy it. One recent find is a lanyard type phone case from XOUXOU. Of course a project on my list is to make a new lanyard to attach to the case, Teresa style.
8. Last thing you lost: Jeez, I misplace stuff all the time, too. But i think my dog’s collar fell off. I can’t find it! Ruh rohhh.
9. Best thing that happened recently: Meeting a like-minded, free-spirited person on Bumble, and the Burton release of a project I worked on with them over a year before the drop.
10. Looking forward to: More 5-hour phone calls with the Bumble guy. Kidding-not-kidding. But seriously looking forward to going to Japan again to see all my friends, immerse my hands in sukumo (true indigo vat), rummage thru antique markets and EAT!
Never stop dancing, TueNighters!