The TueDo List: Viva Vagina + ‘70s Hair + Death Prep

Plus, Margit shares her favorite podcast


📖 READ: The next person who starts a sentence with "Women your age" is gambling. Meg Ryan fall and the unsettling joy of another pandemic autumn. What not to wear to the Women’s March. Sorry, Gwynneth, we’re not making the birthday suit photo an annual tradition. An app for menopause.

👀 LOOK: The “grandfluencers" of TikTok. Season 2 of Bridgerton is going to be FIRE. Kiese Laymon is compiling a directory of good Black doctors. Some 1970s hair inspo for your next trip to the salon.

🎧 LISTEN: Because of Anita, a 4-part podcast about the testimony that changed everything, drops October 4. Janelle Monáe’s “Say Her Name (Hell You Talmbout)” is a star-studded rallying cry.

🛒 ADD TO CART: Anita Hill’s Believing. Pair with this t-shirt (but order 2 sizes up). Blondie: Against the Odds (graphic novel). The VW camper van and Queer Eye LEGO sets.

🤣 LOL: A “sexy” Bernie Sanders costume. Popular books “redesigned for men.” One woman’s simple request for health.


STORY: Spilling the Secrets of Menopause: Sex, Sleep and a First-Time Flash

By Angela Bronner

We’ve aggregated a few of our “greatest hits” on the subject of menopause into a little roundup for you to peruse and enjoy. You will see that you’re not alone; and in typical TueNight fashion, our cadre of writers keep it really real. We also have medical advice from menopause experts and actual tips to help you power through.

Dive In!

NEW COURSE! The 4 D's of End-of-Life Planning

Still don’t have a will? Not sure where to start? End-of-life doula Liz Lightner is leading a practical and tactical 4-week course for TueNighters, in which you’ll learn how to decide, discuss, document, and digitize all aspects of end-of-life — for yourself or the ones you love — including:

  • How to start conversations with loved ones

  • How to name health care proxies and creating living wills

  • How to make end-of-life documents that are easy to update and accessible to your loved ones

The important and valuable course starts Wednesday, October 6 and is $175 for non-members and also gets you a membership to TueNighters!; $125 for TueNighter members; free for founding members.


BETTER LATE: Las Culturistas Podcast

Introducing a slight divergence from our “Obsessed” feature. We’re writing about things we love but are super late in discovering.

I’m a big fan of the (five-year-old) podcast, Las Culturistas with Matt Rogers and Bowen Yang. Now, I’m not usually a “podcast person” (I don’t drive regularly, and I can’t multitask) but on a recent road trip I randomly began listening to Las Culturistas — because I love Bowen Yang and noticed he was interviewing fellow SNLer Cecily Strong. The episode felt like diving into a chat with a snarky, hilarious bestie. 

Yang and his comic collaborator Matt Rogers chronicle their pop culture obsessions, with witty insights and a bazillion hilarious asides (e.g., “If you don’t love Gaga you must not love yourself” and “Arianna is a Disney gay”). With Cecily they swooned over Schmigadoon and offered a leagues-deep analysis of Real Housewives doings. I don’t even watch any Housewives, but I was doubled over laughing. Half the time I don’t know what Yang and Rogers are talking about, but they’re so funny, and their chemistry so good, that it doesn’t matter. Guests have included Alan Cumming, Aidy Bryant, BD Wong and newly minted SNL cast member Sarah Squirm. It’s the kind of podcast you can dip in and out of, and it instantly tweaks my mood from pandemic grump to sunshine and rainbows. 🌈

Margit Detweiler

Viva La Vagina, TueNighters!