May 17, 2023Liked by Margit Detweiler, Liz Thompson
I could not relate to this post more. Thank you, Margit. It’s truly exhausting and cumulatively probably takes up hours each month checking so many sites and apps (not even necessarily avidly using, just checking). I’ve been focused on the pressure to be in many platforms at once professionally that I assumed the personal side was just part of our lives now and everyone was rolling with it except me. It’s so hard to narrow down too because there’s always (for me) at least one person I really care about on each platform. That’s why if I ever quit Twitter I don’t plan to replace it. At least, I say that today.
I just had this conversation with my son! We were both digging through multiple mailboxes trying to find a crucial conversation/link! (& thank you for talking about the emotional labor of keeping up for the non-social media participating family member 🥹😅)
Oh my goodness. It's just TOO MUCH. I have taken to just saying "Sorry, I haven't been looking at social lately..." or "Oh, I must have missed that...what's going on again?" when faced with news-to-me information that apparently has mainly spread via social. I feel like if we are just open about the fact that we CANNOT KEEP UP, maybe it normalizes it for everyone else and removes the pressure? I had totally missed that Bluesky is a thing, but had been actually looking to reduce my overall time on social so...I think I'll probably pass for now (not that anyone is knocking down my door to invite me.)
The worst is when you have good friends who think posting to FB *is* informing everyone of what is going on despite knowing they have friends who aren’t on there. So you start catching up and find out they just didn’t bother to text you major life changes. What FB and other places have done to these personal relationships has been detrimental to all of these irl relationships.
I could not relate to this post more. Thank you, Margit. It’s truly exhausting and cumulatively probably takes up hours each month checking so many sites and apps (not even necessarily avidly using, just checking). I’ve been focused on the pressure to be in many platforms at once professionally that I assumed the personal side was just part of our lives now and everyone was rolling with it except me. It’s so hard to narrow down too because there’s always (for me) at least one person I really care about on each platform. That’s why if I ever quit Twitter I don’t plan to replace it. At least, I say that today.
I just had this conversation with my son! We were both digging through multiple mailboxes trying to find a crucial conversation/link! (& thank you for talking about the emotional labor of keeping up for the non-social media participating family member 🥹😅)
Oh my goodness. It's just TOO MUCH. I have taken to just saying "Sorry, I haven't been looking at social lately..." or "Oh, I must have missed that...what's going on again?" when faced with news-to-me information that apparently has mainly spread via social. I feel like if we are just open about the fact that we CANNOT KEEP UP, maybe it normalizes it for everyone else and removes the pressure? I had totally missed that Bluesky is a thing, but had been actually looking to reduce my overall time on social so...I think I'll probably pass for now (not that anyone is knocking down my door to invite me.)
But wait! There’s another one... https://geekout.mattnavarra.com/p/mark-zuckerbird/
The worst is when you have good friends who think posting to FB *is* informing everyone of what is going on despite knowing they have friends who aren’t on there. So you start catching up and find out they just didn’t bother to text you major life changes. What FB and other places have done to these personal relationships has been detrimental to all of these irl relationships.
A fascinating insight into what's happened for us online in the last few year - we need to be curators of our own experience for sure.