The TueDo List: Gen-X Emojis + Hot Flash Hell 🔥
Oh hey, happy World Menopause Day!
THIS WEEK
📖 READ: Rebecca Traister’s profile of Stacey Abrams. Turns out those drops that are supposed to replace the need for reading glasses don’t work that great. Samantha Irby on how she started turning her anxiety into laughter. The healing power of Bikini Kill. A new study says we can’t necessarily blame menopause for the added weight around our midsections. Women share stories in their own words, five years after the #MeToo movement. Geena Davis is ready for the Geenaissance.
👀 LOOK: A powerful and heartbreaking ad protesting the Texas abortion ban. An Instagram account of old punk flyers. The new Tina Turner Barbie doll, which sold out in like 5 seconds.
🎧 LISTEN: If The Smiths sang a Radiohead song. Tressie McMillan Cottom on the Twitterverse podcast. New music from Nina Hagen. A fantastic Wu-Tang mashup.
🤣 LOL: Thanks to TikTok, there’s a run on Birkenstock clogs, of all things. Live Nation adds fee for looking at tickets but not purchasing them. An imagined conversation in the Lean Cuisine test kitchen. Gen Z doesn’t like it when we use the thumbs-up emoji.
📺 WATCH
Wednesday: Kerry Washington, Charlize Theron, and Michelle Yeoh are just a few of the big names in The School for Good and Evil (Netflix).
Friday: Julia Roberts and George Clooney star in Ticket to Paradise (Theaters), and Harry Styles stars in My Policeman (Prime).
Saturday: The Hair Tales, a six-part docuseries about Black women’s beauty and identity, with Issa Rae, Ayanna Pressley, Chika, Marsai Martin, Chlöe Bailey, and Oprah (OWN and Hulu).
VIDEO: We Ask Dr Barbieri Our Burning Questions About Menopause — Is This "Normal"?
You've just had your exam. Your doctor is about to leave the room and you finally pop your most embarrassing question.
The good news is everyone has those questions — we're here to help you get them answered! In this video discussion, TueNight founder Margit chats with Dr. Anna Barbieri, a renowned, board-certified gynecologist and integrative medicine practitioner along with Alessandra Henderson, Elektra Health Co-Founder and CEO.
In this wide-ranging, no-holds-barred chat we discuss various aspects of menopause and answer what may be the biggest question of all: “Is this normal?”
STORY: The 5 Kübler-Ross Stages of a Hotflash
By Tracey Lynn Lloyd
July 2016. The month New York City officially became hot as Hades and even Texas was sympathetic. Given the temperature, I wasn’t surprised when my sweat glands exploded on a downtown subway platform. I mopped my brow, my neck and the crook of my elbow, grateful when a finely air-conditioned train arrived.
But I was still hot, and still sweating.
“The temperature is over 95 degrees and it’s humid,” I thought. “Overheating is a side effect of my new antidepressant. I’ll be fine.” Meanwhile, I’d been on the “new” medications for over a year with no other adverse events. I tried to ignore my history of night sweats. I’d just turned 44…
TUENIGHT 10: Dana Cobbs, DJ
Age: 51.
Basic bio: Dana is a model, DJ, sister, and aunt who works in communications for an awesome food company. She’s working on various home projects and navigating hot flashes.
Beyond the bio: The pandemic put us all in time out; it most certainly changed my outlook on SO many areas of my life. In the last 2 years I watched my body change, I’ve slowed down, I even drive slower! I know that so few things matter in life. Take care of your health and keep your family close.
What makes you a grown-ass lady?
Honesty and gratitude have gotten me quite far, especially in these last couple of years. Also, there is very little that gets under my skin. I’m so much better at letting things go, saying farewell, and staying away from things that don’t bring me peace.
Here’s her TueNight 10:
On the nightstand: My evening skincare products, a hard drive of my music files (I like to keep them close), and a handful of books about joy, zen, and saying yes to life.
Can’t stop/won’t stop: My obsession with music. I love to provide atmospheres. I love to provide the soundtrack for awesome memories.
Jam of the minute: The organs in the Honey Dijon remix of Beyonce’s “Break My Soul” really take me there!
Thing I miss: The pandemic sort of crushed nightlife, but I've adapted. It’s been a while since I’ve been out for a night of dancing (where I’m not the DJ!).
‘80s crush: Prince!
Current crush: Lenny Kravitz.
Latest fav find: Kucci Berry Kitty Scrub and Whole Foods’ Italian sparkling mineral water (the lime mint elderflower flavor).
Last thing you lost: My Apple earpods!
Best thing that happened recently: I was given a choice to make at work. I could throw my hat in the ring for an evolving role that isn’t really suited for me, or I could step aside and make room for a far better qualified person. I’ve decided to go for it.
Looking forward to: I’m battling with some skin discoloration — thanks adult acne! I’m looking forward to it fading away. More importantly, I’m looking forward to traveling, paying off the mortgage, and being a happy 51-year-old.
We’ll never judge your dance moves, TueNighters!
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