The TueDo List: Post-Roe Rage + Metal Makeup + AMA with Kim & Jen

FYI this week's "surprise" link is rather NSFW.

Jun 28, 2022

A crowd of people outside the Supreme Court. (Photo: AP/Alex Brandon)

✊ ACT: What can you do, post-Roe? Sherrilyn Ifill has lots of good suggestions. Places to donate to support abortion access. Ways you can support safe travel for abortion care. And some important digital security and privacy tips for people helping with abortion access.

📖 READ: We’re not going back to the time before Roe v. Wade — we’re going somewhere worse. But we must have hope and “go forward with the will of those who came before, and those who have never stopped putting one foot in front of another, to some finer tomorrow, distant but always possible.” How to support your friends when you’re emotionally drained. The gospel according to Mavis Staples. Why stores are so full of puff sleeves and trendy stuff we’d never wear. Don’t call Sarah Jessica Parker’s gray hair “brave.”

👀 LOOK: All the photos of people out there protesting the end of Roe. Kendrick Lamar’s powerful Glastonbury finale.

🎧 LISTEN: H.E.R. covers Sly & The Family Stone. Cindy Lauper’s updated version of “Sally’s Pigeons.” Just what you need for your smash-the-patriarchy playlists: Spotify’s new karaoke mode.

🤣 LOL: Things I wish were subject to inflation. Friend who texted “Okay sooo…” has been typing second text for 42 days. “Pour some (glitter) on me?” Def Leppard has launched a makeup line.

📺 WATCH

Now: Dream On, the documentary chronicling the1996 USA Women’s Basketball team (ESPN); Season 4 of Westworld (HBO Max); and the second season of Only Murders in the Building (Hulu).
Friday: Frieda Pinto stars in Regency rom-com Mr. Malcolm's List. (Theaters)

TONIGHT: “AMA” with Kim France and Jennifer Romolini

We are thrilled to have TWO amazing women join us for tonight’s Ask Me Anything (AMA) at 7 pm est. These ladies are two of the stylish, coolest peeps I know. Fashion mavens, podcasting pros, fantastic writers and fellow dog lovers. (I’ve met Kim’s dog Mister in person!) You can — as the name suggests — ask them anything about anything.

Kim and Jennifer will both be here tonight from 7-8pm ET to answer your questions live, in real time, via this wonderful space we call The TueNight Social.

Ask Them Anything

TUENIGHT 10: Deb Rogers, Writer and Editor

A woman with her arms folded, one hand against her cheek, smiling and looking up, on a background of citrus slices

Age: 58.

Basic bio: Deb is an editor, writer and consultant who lives and writes in St. Augustine, FL. Her debut novel Florida Woman comes out July 5th from Hanover Square Press.

Beyond the bio: I've had many careers so far. I've been a victim advocate, a policymaker, an educator, a blogger, and a serial entrepreneur. By this point, I've flown out of the ashes of burnout more times than I can count, but that's okay because I find real joy in starting over. I love that in publishing they call your first published book a "debut." I'm a late-blooming debutante. What a kick!

What makes you a grown-ass lady? Sometimes I think learning to navigate grief is the biggest challenge we face as we age. Right now I am doing my best to hold steady, make peace, and remember that waves come in cycles. I'm like a wild squirrel stockpiling good memories and new experiences to hold me over when winter inevitably arrives again.

Here’s her TueNight 10:

On the nightstand: Ryder-Waite tarot cards wrapped in a vintage Alexander McQueen skull scarf, grapefruit Burt's Bees lip balm, handmade candle (bergamot, tonka, tobacco & oud), six or seven books with Everyone in This Room Will Someday Be Dead by Emily Austin, Exalted by Anna Dorn, and an advance copy of Other People’s Secrets by Meredith Hambrock on the top of the pile.
Can't stop/won't stop: Soaking up the sun — but at least I now use sunscreen instead of Hawaiian Tropic Dark Tanning Oil.
Jam of the minute: Florence + The Machine’s Dance Fever.
Thing I miss: Making pancakes for my kids when they were young. I don't regret aging per se, but that was a particularly sweet time of life.
'80s crush: Debbie Harry!
Current crush: The other day I realized that if Charlize Theron started a cult, I would beg my way in.
Latest fav find: Dr. Dennis Gross’ Universal Daily Peel. Hell of an upgrade from Sea Breeze.
Last thing you lost: My sunglasses. This is not an uncommon occurrence for me.
Best thing that happened recently: Every time someone I know feels better after a COVID bout.
Looking forward to: Florida Woman publishing July 5th. I can't wait for this book at long last to find its way into readers’ hands. It's a dream come true. I'm so excited I'm manifesting fireworks to fly high on book launch eve all across the country. Look up and celebrate with me!

ON TN SOCIAL: How Are You Doing, TueNighters?

Friday's SCOTUS decision to overturn Roe v. Wade has us reeling. Personally, I'm still in shock and don't have the words. I just have raw, unadulterated rage.

As Gen-Xers, many of us have spent our entire reproductive lives — for the most part — under the protections of Roe. Now we, our children, our nieces and nephews, and our friends in other generations, are facing an entirely new world.

This is a safe space for paid members of The TueNight Social to share how we’re feeling and coping.

— Margit

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STORY: I Tried To Break Up With My Therapist. It Didn’t Go Well.

By Robin Gelfenbien

Linda (mid-50s) greets me at the door with a limp handshake, which I absolutely hate. She has a mop of golden brown hair and very droopy eyes. She’s a dead ringer for Droopy from Deputy Dawg, and the whole time we talk, she looks really sad, which I guess is good for her line of work.

I tell her what’s going on in my life. I’m trying to work East Coast hours for a West Coast company while getting acclimated to new co-workers, new classmates, a new roommate and a new city that I’ve never been a fan of. And on top of it all, a guy I met at a Halloween party when I was dressed up as, of all things, The Ladies Man from SNL, is now stalking me. So yeah, I’m a little stressed out.

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