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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom sounded so interesting! Losing a beloved parent is one of the most difficult things we go through. One of the wonderful things about being this age is recognizing that it’s ok to refocus when you need to, rather than running yourself down trying to keep up perceived obligations to others. I can’t wait to read your book/see the movie/ watch the TV series in the future!

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Thank you Ruth. And yes re: the refocus. One of the perks of aging. :-)

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Sending love your way.

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Thank you Charlotte

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

So sorry for your loss. It's so hard. As I said on the survey, maybe an intermitent quiet time together to create & support each other while doing that (sometimes a little company helps).

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I like the intermittent quiet time together idea... I'l mull on that soon

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The quiet is such an important space Margit- to process, to metabolize and to ultimately refuel. I lost my mom 16 months ago and I’m some ways, I am still processing and probably always will be. Honestly, I don’t think you can truly understand it until you go through it. I still “talk” to her regularly and it’s been a comfort to find little ways to honor her as I move forward. I wish that same comfort for you. I loved reading about your mom- she sounded like a trailblazing, fascinating woman. Apple did not fall far...Sending you much love, and we will be here for whatever, wherever or however you show up ❤️

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Jan 24·edited Jan 24Author

Oh thank you Dina. ❤️

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

Oh what a fun ride it has been. Thank you for so many years connecting such fabulous women on so many levels. Thank you for your poignant insights into all the things we are thinking but maybe not saying out loud. I am so looking forward to what you will come up with next because I know it will be amazing. And hopefully you will pop in from time to time.

PS: you had a great mom ❤️

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❤️

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

Margit, my dear ole pal, I have been thinking about you so much. Whenever you're ready for a writing partner, do let me know. Love, Kimba.

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Will do Kimba ❤️

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

Oh my heart goes to you. I am so very sorry.

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Thank you Becca

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

The passing away of a Mother is an impossible realization. They were our anchor tenants. You are right knowing they are not a phone call away or block away is too hard.. I am so sad for you .

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"anchor tenants" absolutely. ❤️

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

Oh Margit,

Deepest condolences. I lost my mom last year as well. No one can tell you what it will be like - that empty space. The quiet. How the various, silent notes of loss will sneak up on you. The paralysis. The pain.

Be kind to yourself and take the time you need to learn to walk this new path in a new skin. Hugs to you - and warm, soft blankets.

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Rae I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs right back to you xoxo

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Sending you my deepest condolences. I’ll be here when (if) you want to come back. Take good care.

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Appreciate that Gillian

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

Margit - I am so very sorry about your mom and I send you a virtual hug.

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Virtual hug to you as well

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

So beautifully put dear Margit. Sending you all the love as you process this grief and take cared of you 🙏🏼🫶

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Thank you Susan ❤️

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Margit, I’m so sorry. I think a pause during a difficult time sounds exactly right, and we are perfectly capable of pausing with you, as long as you need. Sending love.❤️ (Oh and if rewriting is a character flaw I’ve had things wrong all these years.)

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Here's to our fabulous character flaws! xoxo

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

I get it on all counts. I'm in a quiet space, too, wondering how/when/if ever, I will emerge. I lost my mom almost twenty years ago and still say "hi" to her in the rising sun, which always makes me smile. I will truly miss you Margit. So...come back soon. Sending big hugs your way. Phyllis

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I'm so sorry Phyllis but your note brings comfort. I love this: "I still say "hi" to her in the rising sun"

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Jan 24Liked by Margit Detweiler

It’s a strange thing. It happened almost immediately after her death. There she was, smiling back in the sunrise. You’ll find your mom somewhere, too. Just right there, wherever there is. ❤️

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now. I'm glad you're taking a break though, and looking out for yourself and your own mental health. Take care and we'll be here when you come back.

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Thanks so much Jen. I'll be consuming your newsletter in the meantime! ❤️

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I haven't gotten an email from you guys this year. Please subscribe me again. Ginawilliams4004@yahoo.com

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